Queering Internal Family Systems (IFS) Podcast
A conversation between two queer, neurodivergent IFS therapists who wanted to talk about the things that don't always make it into the training room.
Hosted by Jude Carn and Alessio Rizzo, Queering IFS explores what happens when you bring a queer and neurodivergent lens to Internal Family Systems therapy. Each episode is a genuine conversation: about identity, parts, self-energy, shame, joy, nature, and the places where the model needs to stretch a little further.
Whether you're an IFS therapist, in IFS therapy yourself, or just curious about what it means to do this work in a body and a life like yours, you're welcome here.
New episodes drop fortnightly. Find us on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen.
Episode 12 - Queering Internal Family Systems (IFS) - Bringing Compassion to the Complexity around Pronouns for Everybody with Phil de la Haye
In the first episode of 2026, Jude and Alessio are joined by Phil for a thoughtful conversation about pronouns, privilege, and complexity.
Rather than treating pronouns as a simple checkbox, this episode explores how they operate across different layers: inside our systems, in relationship, and within wider cultural and organisational contexts. The conversation stays with the reality that pronouns can be affirming, exposing, political, tender, and sometimes activating, often all at once.
Episode 6 - Queering IFS - Queering the Self in IFS (Part 2) - is the Self Queer?
In this episode Jude (She/They) and Alessio (He/They) continue their conversation on the Self, which is such a central concept in IFS Therapy.
Jude and Alessio dive further into questions of Self or Self-Energy in IFS through a queering lens. They ask, is the Self queer? Where is queerness in the system? And where does the question of the qualities of Self even come from?
Episode 7 - Queering IFS - Exploring the Burden of the Gender Binary with Anna Thomas (They / Them) (Copy)
In this podcast Jude (She / They) and Alessio (He / They) discuss with their guest Anna Thomas (They / Them) about the importance of bringing awareness to the impact of the gender binary on all our lives.
Episode 3 - Queering IFS - IFS and Pronouns - Why They Matter Inside and Out!
Join Alessio and Jude this week as they talk about pronouns. Something they are both passionate about in supporting clients to have an inclusive and affirmative experience in their therapy. Not just the importance of checking out and using the client's pronouns, but also doing this with their parts.